You know how sometimes you meet a person and you just know without a doubt they are going to have a huge impact on your life? Whether that be by their actions or something they’ve said that just resonates with you..
Well I do and I was lucky enough to be blessed with him as one of the biggest personalities in my life; my dad.
Two weeks ago I posted about there needing to be a little bit of good in the world and it made me think about all the good I have in mine. This man has been a rock to not only me but so many others around him and I’ve come to realise a lot of the traits he displays are now very hard to find in others, what a sad realization that was.
He is one of the most hardworking people I know, many of my childhood memories are of him getting up at the first sign of light to head off to work or to at least get himself ready for work just to come back inside and start the rounds of trying to get me out of bed, which of course took a lot of convincing and a lot of knocking on doors and robbing me of my blanket countless times over. Of course back then I thought he was unusually cruel making me leave the warmth and comfort but of course he was only trying to make sure I was out the door and at school on time to get the education he wanted me to have.
Talking about school, you’d think I would have appreciated that occasionally between work he would be waiting to pick me up in his work ute so I didn’t have to walk in the rain. Of course instead of saying thank you I would duck down until out of sight of my friends before telling him off for picking me up in his ute that was “totally embarassing” but not once did he stop coming or did he chastise me for being rude.
In full swing of my teenage years he put up with meltdowns and wants/needs that were incredibly selfish and damn right expectant of me one second and tears and sibling rivalry the next. He took it in and just offered his tidbits of opinion or advice on the rare occasion when he thought safe to do so.
Outside of his family that he supports he is always willing to lend a hand to a friend or someone in need and anyone around him knows they could count on him if need be whether that be for advice or to help fix or build something. This man has the most amazing brain (I tell him constantly will need to be studied one day) and can convert, alter or rebuild things around him by coming up with contraptions with bits and pieces he has laying around.
Never expecting a thank you or acknowledgment and never praising himself to others, he is without a doubt one of the most modest human beings you may ever come across.
Coming from a family with 7 siblings you would think every once in a while he would be out for himself and put his own needs ahead of others, so of course I tried to sit and think of a time that this was true. NOT ONCE, has he put himself ahead of others or not thought out a consequence to his actions.
One line that always resonates with me that he has said on many different occasions “Will getting mad or upset about it change the outcome?” it’s a line I try to remember always and while not always easy to live by, I think it sums him up pretty well.
Someone who takes everything in his stride and rather then gets mad or throwing a tantrum over something he let’s things go and is always the bigger person in every situation, which to me sounds exhausting and yet here he is 60 years later still doing the same thing.
In five days time friends and family are gathering to celebrate his birthday and I can already tell you he will be embarrassed that so many have made the time for him. Whether he realises it or not there is no place anyone would rather be then celebrating what an amazing human being he is.
I hear you thinking, “he must have some short comings right?” well you’re right he does.
He is short.. (pun intended) so there is that.
But he has also never apologized to any man that has come in to my life for not being able to stand up next to him in my eyes. Don’t get me wrong, I have an amazing fiance who shares first place podium with him, but I do believe my dad owes him an apology because he has set some pretty impossible standards by which I judge every other male in my life by.
So I’ve realised I don’t have to look very far for a little bit of good in this world, I just have to look at my dad and so long as he remains the man I remember I will always know that there is a little bit of brightness in a world that can sometimes feel pitch black.
Happiest of birthdays to this amazing man on the milestone that is his 60th Birthday, may you always know how truly loved and inspiring you are to those around you.